Allow me to go on record and say: in no way shape or form is domestic violence ever "ok". Never should it be acceptable, tolerated or anything synonymous. There is never a reason good enough to justify such a heinous act.
I think the NFL, however, doesn't always see this to be the case. They're still having a hard time figuring out what's "fair".
New York Giants' kicker Josh Brown has recently come under fire as it has been discovered that he has physically abused his (now) ex-wife. This comes after Brown's journal, several emails and letters were released and a personal admission of guilt was displayed.
The written documents, similar to a very public elevator scene, describes how little Brown thought of his then-wife. How he expected her to treat him like he was God and she was his slave. While there were no specific instances listed in the documents it has been reported that Brown has abused his wife (physically, mentally and verbally) on more than 20 occasions in the last several years.
Brown was actually arrested in 2015, when he was the kicker for the Seattle Seahawks, following an "incident" with his wife. What's crazy is the Giants knew (obviously) and looked right by it - signed him to the team. Then at the Pro Bowl (this year's Pro Bowl if you're keeping score) another "incident" occurred where the NFL was forced to intervene. So at what point does he receive "punishment"? Answer: one game suspension. ONE GAME!
And I think what really kills me is that knowing what you know, a personal admission of guilt AND you saw it happen yet, his coaching staff and the owners are standing by him. Where were these people when "There's no place in the NFL for Ray Rice"?
I really need to understand how the premise right now is if we watch it happens it's bad but if we only read about it it's fine. Now I will I say there's still Greg Hardy who has not been labeled a total outcast in the NFL but the evidence has not been as apparent as the elevator scene or these journals and other documents. Hardy's (said) actions are also inexcusable. And he at least sat out an entire season.
But back to Brown, so he's suspended for one game and his coaches are standing by him. I can understand not wanting to take away from the game you're getting ready for over the weekend but to stand by him? What is that was your daughter? How do you still look that man in the eye and say you won't turn your back on him if that was your sister?
And truth be told I hate to play this card because to me it's more of an annoyance than a helpful tool (if you will) but if we were talking about a different player, a black player would this be the punishment?
Would the coaches be standing by O'Dell Beckham if he came out and said "hey, I've been abusing my wife for years"? No, we just scrutinize O'Dell for being a "distraction" for his team. Because beating your wife, the mother of your children, hey, that's no big deal for the Giants!
All in all I really don't care if you're white, black or purple with polka dots: if you're going to punish to the fullest extent for one you need to do it for all. Especially when there is the clearest admission of guilt.
But hey, all I know is fair.